How to Heal from Codependency and Stop Attracting Narcissists: A Deep Dive into Recovery

One of the most common questions I receive is deceptively simple: "Lisa, how do I heal from codependency and stop attracting narcissistic people into my life?" As someone who has walked this path both personally and as a recovery coach, I understand that the answer is far more complex than most people realize.

What many don't realize is just how deep codependency runs. I've worked with countless clients who spent decades in traditional therapy, being treated for anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder, and BPD-like symptoms, without ever hearing the words "codependency," "enmeshment," or "narcissism." 

I faced the same challenge myself, seeing multiple therapists before finally encountering one who recognized codependency – mainly because he was a recovering codependent himself.

If you've identified codependency as the root of your struggles, congratulations – you've already taken a massive step forward. You've stepped outside the traditional therapeutic box and begun reclaiming your power. When you find information that gives you goosebumps and resonates deeply within your soul, pay attention. Your body and emotions are trying to guide you toward healing.

While self-discovery is crucial, having professional support during this journey can be invaluable. As you begin connecting the dots between your past and present, having someone to lean on becomes essential. The process of removing denial can be intensely painful – like finally acknowledging childhood trauma or family dysfunction. 

Remember: This isn't your shame to carry. The dysfunction in your family wasn't your fault.

Key Elements of Codependency Recovery

1. Slowing Down the Mental Field

Codependency is essentially a form of brainwashing that taught you to doubt your right to your own experiences and emotions. Meditation becomes crucial here – it helps slow down the mental chatter and connects you with your authentic self, your inner wisdom that resides in your heart space.

2. Understanding the Fear Connection

Fear fuels codependency, but education helps minimize that fear. As you learn about the mechanics of codependency – how the brainwashing occurred, why it happened, and how it affects your current relationships – the fear begins to fade. This reduction in fear creates space for new responses and healthier relationships.

3. Embracing Self-Education and Awareness

Recovery requires immersing yourself in understanding:

• The dynamics of codependency
• The impact of enmeshment
• How childhood brainwashing operates
• The effects of emotional neglect
• Your own patterns and triggers

Remember, Dear One, you are worthy of healing, regardless of your past or present circumstances. Your current situation reflects the programming you received, not your inherent worth. We are the renegades who refuse to stay quiet anymore, brave enough to face our past and create a different future.

Your Next Steps

1. Begin a regular meditation practice
2. Educate yourself about codependency
3. Consider working with a coach who understands this journey
4. Practice listening to your inner wisdom
5. Be patient with your healing process

This is just the beginning of your sacred journey back to self. True healing takes time, commitment, and courage – all of which you already possess.

All my love,
Lisa

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